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where on the profile does having a partner belong

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porchlight_pete Original poster #1

married, open, she knows, has done for years, none of this is new or dramatic in our house.

what i cannot work out is where on the page it goes.

first line feels blunt. it also means the first thing anyone knows about me is a piece of admin about somebody else, and there is a version of that which reads as a warning rather than as information.

further down feels dishonest. by the time someone gets to line ten they have already built a picture, and now i am correcting it, and a correction always sounds like something that was being kept back even when it was in writing the whole time.

i have also noticed that the couples on here who get taken seriously write it very differently from the ones who obviously do not, and i cannot put my finger on what the difference is.

so where does yours go and what does it say? and for people who have dated somebody partnered, what did you want to see and where.

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stitchwitch_meg #2

Line one, or as near to it as you can manage without it being the entire headline. Anything further down and a proportion of readers will have decided things about you before they get there, and then the correction lands as a reveal even though you wrote it plainly on the same page. I have watched partnered friends lose good conversations entirely because of where a true sentence sat.

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What the handbook says about this

Both halves of the problem end up on this board: a profile that says nothing, and an opener that goes nowhere. Underneath both is usually the same worry about being found by the wrong person, so that one is here too.

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