The board
Readers comparing notes
Readers compare notes on dating kinky: what worked, what did not. The handbook gives you the method; the board is where the specifics get argued out in public.
Starting out
First profiles, first messages, first doubts.
On this subject the handbook has What BDSM dating actually means and Four honest routes to meeting people, compared.
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Profiles & messages
What actually gets replies. Show your drafts.
On this subject the handbook has A profile that filters instead of flattering and The opener that actually gets answered.
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Meeting up
First meets, munches, and taking it offline.
On this subject the handbook has Why the video call is the cheap half of vetting and Venues that work, munches included.
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Scene talk
Dating culture in the kink scene, the good and the tired.
On this subject the handbook has How the culture works, reputation included and When everyone worth meeting is two hours away.
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Latest
8 topics across 4 categories
Underneath all four boards
Each board above points at the pages that answer it. These three sit under all of them: what predicts a match, what predicts trouble, and how anybody checks a stranger is who they say they are.
- What actually predicts a match, in order
- The red flags that show up before the first meeting
- Vetting a stranger before you trust one
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