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Switches the 13th, Paris

Twenty five, no car, no money, and a very small map

Posted as walking_distance_only

Looking for
somebody I can actually get to on a weeknight
Experience
Three years, one dynamic, ended over the distance between us.
Around
the 13th, Paris

My world is about four kilometres across. No car, no licence, and a budget that does not stretch to getting home at one in the morning from somewhere the metro has stopped serving. That is the honest constraint and it has ended one dynamic already.

Twenty five, Paris, switch, three years in. She lived forty minutes out and for six months I made it work and then I stopped being able to, and the ending was slow and awkward and entirely about logistics.

So I am being specific this time. I am looking for somebody in this city, ideally on my side of it, who I can reach on foot or with one connection. That is a small pool and I would rather have a small pool than another year of good intentions.

I lead a bit more than I follow, though I am new enough that I do not entirely trust that. I am interested in rope, in rules, and in being useful. I am not interested in anything that costs money, which rules out a surprising amount of what people propose.

I share a flat with three others, so I cannot host at all. What I can offer is time. I have an enormous amount of it, I answer messages, and I turn up. I have noticed that on this board those two things are apparently rarer than experience. Not looking for anybody who will offer to pay for taxis. It is kind and it is not a solution I want to be inside.

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