BDSM personals in Paris
Paris posts are longer than almost anywhere else on this board and the expectation is that you exchange several messages before anyone suggests meeting. The tone is written and considered rather than quick. Space is the practical constraint nobody escapes: flats are small, walls are thin, and where something could actually happen is a real subject in the ads.
Posts come from the Marais, Belleville, the 11th, the 20th and the inner suburbs. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Dominants in Paris
People looking to lead, and saying what that means to them.
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I came to Paris for the work and lost the only room I ever had
Looking for: a submissive who has solved the problem of where, or will help me solve it
Eleven years leading, two dynamics, both before I arrived here.
I moved here three years ago for reasons that had nothing to do with any of this: a job, and the growing conviction that I was going to spend my thirties in a town where nothing was going to happen to me. I have not regretted it once, and I have also had to accept that I now live in twenty six square metres with a neighbour I can hear cough through the wall.
Submissives in Paris
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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Paris, and I have already met everybody in my corner of this
Looking for: somebody new, from anywhere on the other side of the map
Eight years, four dynamics, all of them inside one small circle.
There are, I would guess, about seventy people in the circle I ended up in, and after eight years I know almost all of them by sight and about half of them properly. Two of my four dynamics were with people who had previously been involved with each other. It is not scandalous. It is simply what a circle of seventy produces over eight years, and I have reached the end of what it can offer me.
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Twenty four, and what I want is embarrassingly specific
Looking for: a dominant who is not disappointed by a very short list
Two years, no dynamic, several conversations that went nowhere.
There is one thing I want. Not a category, not a direction, one thing, and I have spent two years discovering that this makes me a disappointing correspondent. People want a person with range. I have a person with a single interest and a great deal of patience about it.
Switches in Paris
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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Does anybody on here finish a conversation, or is it just me
Looking for: one person who will still be replying in three weeks
Eighteen years, both directions, and I have seen better boards.
Since January I have had eleven conversations here that went well and then stopped. Not ended. Stopped. Mid exchange, sometimes mid question, with no explanation, from people who had been writing paragraphs the previous evening. I have started keeping a tally, which is either funny or a sign that I should take up a hobby.
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Spanish, in Paris fifteen years, and split between two countries
Looking for: someone who does not mind that I vanish across the border
Twelve years, both directions, in two countries and two languages.
My mother is on the other side of the mountains and I am there one weekend in three, and have been for eleven years, and will be for as long as she is alive. It is most of a day each way and it is not negotiable and it eats a third of my weekends.
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Two years in Paris and still amazed there are this many of us
Looking for: someone to work things out with, without any hurry
Two years, one short dynamic, a great deal of reading.
I grew up in a town in the west where the idea that other people like me existed was purely theoretical. I moved here at twenty five and the thing that still catches me, two years later, is not the size of the city. It is the ordinariness. There are hundreds of us. Nobody is remarkable. It was the loneliest fact about my adolescence and here it is a shrug.
Couples in Paris
Partners searching together, with both of them in the post.
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Paris, two of us, and we would like to be known as ordinary
Looking for: friends in this who will not make us into a topic
Together five years, a dynamic between us for three.
We are two women in our thirties, together five years, in Paris. One of us is trans, which is the reason we are writing this paragraph and not the reason we are writing the post, and we have gone back and forth about whether to mention it at all. We have decided to, because otherwise it arrives later and becomes an event, and we are extremely tired of it being an event.
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We have done this twice and got it wrong twice
Looking for: a third person who will benefit from our two failures
Together thirteen years, two attempts at a third, both ended badly.
The first time we did not talk about jealousy at all, because we did not think we would feel any, and it ended in four months with somebody hurt who did not deserve it. The second time we talked about jealousy constantly and about everything else not at all, and it ended in seven months with a different person hurt in a different way.
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Paris couple, twelve years together, and we move very slowly
Looking for: a third person for a friendship that might become more in a year
Twelve years together, seven with a dynamic between us.
The last time we did this it took fourteen months from the first message to anything at all happening, and it lasted three years, and we are still close to her. We are telling you that at the top so that you can decide now whether we sound like a waste of your summer.
Writing your own
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