Thirty years here, and the fear is always bigger than the risk
Posted as never_as_secret
- Looking for
- one submissive woman for something long and unhurried
- Experience
- Thirty years, three dynamics, the shortest of them four years.
- Around
- the west end, Glasgow
Thirty years of doing this in this city, and the thing I would tell anybody starting out is that it was never as secret as you think, and that this is mostly good news.
Sixty one, dominant man, west end. I have watched people torture themselves about being found out, and in three decades I have known two occasions where somebody's life was genuinely damaged by it, and both involved something other than kink. What happens far more often is that a friend turns out to have known for years and to have said nothing, out of politeness.
I am not telling anybody to be careless. Be careful, particularly here, where everyone is two people away from everyone. I am saying the fear is usually larger than the risk, and it costs people whole decades of their lives.
What I want is one submissive woman for something long and unhurried. Three dynamics, the shortest four years. I am slow, I am talkative, and I would rather spend a month on the conversation than a fortnight regretting the lack of one.
Not looking for anybody in a hurry. Not looking to be a mentor in the way that word is usually meant, since I have watched that arrangement go wrong more often than right. Not looking for somebody who needs me to be certain about everything, because after thirty years I am certain of less than I was at forty. And not looking for anybody who has decided that a man my age must be looking for a nurse or a housekeeper, since I have neither ambition and I am perfectly capable of running a washing machine.