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Submissives Clear Lake, Houston

Houston. Discretion is a job requirement, not a preference

Posted as base_adjacent_discreet

Looking for
someone who understands why I will be careful for a long time
Experience
Six years, most of it while stationed somewhere else entirely.
Around
Clear Lake, Houston

I am going to be slower and more careful than most people on this board, and none of it is personal.

I work in a field where my private life is reviewable, and while nothing I am into is illegal or disqualifying, being casual about it is a bad idea for reasons that have nothing to do with shame. So: no photograph with my face in it, nothing written down that identifies me, and I will not be adding anybody to anything anywhere. Thirty three, Houston, submissive. Six years of experience, almost all of it in another state while I was serving, which meant short intense arrangements and a lot of goodbyes. I am settled here now for at least three years and I would like something with a longer horizon than that pattern allowed.

What I respond to is calm authority rather than theatrics. Somebody exact about expectations and unbothered when things go wrong. I have a fairly high tolerance for discipline and a very low tolerance for people who confuse cruelty with control. I am not asking you to be a secret. I am asking you to be discreet, which is a different thing, and mostly means being sensible about what gets written down and where.

There are more people here in the same position than you would expect. If you have known somebody in this world before, you already understand the drill, and you are probably who I am writing to.

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