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Switches the 20th, Paris

I have crossed this entire city eleven times this year for an evening

Posted as two_hours_and_back

Looking for
someone closer, please, for once in my life
Experience
Eight years, both directions, most of it an hour from home.
Around
the 20th, Paris

Eleven times this year I have crossed Paris after work, spent an evening at the far end of it, and come home on the last train or not at all. I have got very good at it. I have also worked out that it costs me a whole night's sleep each time and a quantity of money on taxis I would very much like back.

Twenty nine, Paris, switch, eight years. The reason is not that there is nobody near me. There is a circle within twenty minutes of my door and it is decent. The reason is that at twenty three I met somebody on the other side of the river, and then somebody else, and I built the habit of looking across the map before looking down my own street, and I have never really broken it.

So this is an attempt to break it. I would like to meet somebody within half an hour of me, on one line, without changes, and find out whether the thing I have been travelling for was ever actually about the travelling.

I lead about half the time. What I want is regular rather than spectacular: someone I see twice a week without it being an expedition. I share a flat with one person who knows about all of this and does not care, which makes hosting possible with notice.

I would want to write for a bit first. I am not good at deciding anything about a person in an hour, which is probably why the day trips kept happening.

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