keep writing this line and then deleting it before i save.
the line is that i am looking for something ongoing rather than a string of one-offs. that is genuinely what i want. i am 39, i have done the other thing, and i would like to be someone’s actual person rather than an entry in a rotation.
every time i put it in i then imagine somebody reading it and hearing a clock ticking. it feels like arriving at a party and announcing your intentions in the hallway.
so it comes out, and then my profile says nothing about what i want, and then i spend six weeks talking to someone lovely and discover we were doing completely different things.
does stating it cost you? has anyone put a plain sentence about wanting something lasting on a profile and had it work, or does it just thin the inbox down to people who are also anxious about it.
