Non binary, which is the least interesting thing written here
Posted as not_the_subject
- Looking for
- competence rather than curiosity, and one person for both directions
- Experience
- Five years, led when planned, followed when not.
- Around
- Noord, Amsterdam
I am non binary, which is the least interesting thing in this post, and it has to go near the top or it becomes the whole of the first conversation and I lose an evening.
Twenty nine, switch, Noord, five years in, working somewhere unglamorous during the day and doing something else in the evenings that I will tell you about eventually.
What I want: one person, ongoing, both directions. I lead when it has been planned and I follow when it has not, which I understand is backwards from the way most people describe themselves. Structure suits me. Surprises suit me considerably less than I once believed they did.
What I would like from you is competence rather than education. I do not want to be somebody's first experience of a person like me, and I do not want to spend the early weeks answering questions a search engine would handle. Curiosity does not offend me. I am simply tired, in the particular way that comes of having the same conversation for eleven years.
I can host sometimes, which in this city makes me practically a landowner. Not looking for anyone who has to establish what I am before deciding whether they are attracted to me. Not looking for a person who will use the wrong words and then need managing about it. Not looking for anything that has to stay secret, because I have done that and it made me miserable in a way I only understood later.