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Switches the east, Amsterdam

My shifts appear on a Thursday, so plan nothing further ahead

Posted as rota_out_thursday

Looking for
somebody who can be spontaneous without being unreliable
Experience
Seven years, both directions, two dynamics ended by scheduling.
Around
the east, Amsterdam

My shifts for the following week get published on a Thursday. Sometimes Friday. Once, memorably, on a Sunday night for a Monday morning. Planning more than nine days ahead is not something I can do, and it has cost me two relationships.

Thirty three, switch, in the east, seven years in, working in hospitality in a job I actually like. I need somebody who can be spontaneous without being unreliable, which is a rarer combination than it sounds. If I write on a Thursday to say I am free on Tuesday, that has to be a real possibility rather than something you look at with a diary and a sigh.

In return I am free at hours nobody else is. Weekday mornings. Entire Mondays. The middle of an afternoon, when the city belongs to people who are not at a desk.

I switch, and in practice I lead slightly more than I follow. I want one person rather than an evening here and there, and I want it steady even while the days move around.

Not looking for somebody whose week is booked a month in advance, because it would be miserable for both of us. Not looking for anybody who reads short notice as disrespect.

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