I am blunt and autistic, and nobody local has ever thought I was angry
Posted as blunt_is_not_angry
- Looking for
- a submissive who likes written rules and plain answers
- Experience
- Eight years, two dynamics, both run on written agreements.
- Around
- the city centre, Glasgow
I am autistic and I am blunt, and people who did not grow up here read those two together as anger. Nobody local has ever once thought I was angry. It has cost me two conversations with people who moved here recently, and I would rather explain it in a post than in a first message.
Thirty three, dominant man, city centre, eight years in.
In practice: I say exactly what I mean, I do not soften it, and I need the same in return. Hints do not reach me. If you tell me something was fine when it was not, I will believe you completely, then get it wrong again next time, and neither of us will know why. Plain answers are not a formality with me. They are the entire safety mechanism.
What I want is a submissive who likes structure and specificity. Written rules. A set routine. Reasons given. I am good at consistency in a way a lot of people find restful, and I am poor at improvisation and I have stopped pretending otherwise.
Not looking for anybody who wants to be surprised. Not looking for a person who communicates by mood. Not looking to be managed, which I mention because two people have tried handling me rather than talking to me and both times I noticed immediately.