Ask me anything you like, but I am not sitting your quiz
Posted as not_sitting_an_exam
- Looking for
- one submissive of any gender for a long and reviewed dynamic
- Experience
- Twenty three years, four dynamics, two of them over five years.
- Around
- the city centre, Glasgow
In the last four months three men who have never done any of this have asked me to prove myself. One sent a list of questions with a note saying he was screening for safety, which would be entirely fair if a single question on it had been about safety.
Fifty, dominant woman, city centre, twenty three years in. I understand caution and I encourage it. Ask me how I negotiate. Ask what I do when something goes wrong. Ask me for a reference, honestly, and I will give you two.
What I will not do is sit a quiz on terminology to satisfy somebody who read a book last month. It is not a test of experience. It is a way of establishing who is running the conversation, and that will not be settled by my passing it.
What I want is one submissive, any gender, for a long dynamic. Slow to start, structured once started, and reviewed properly every few months rather than assumed to be fine.
Not looking for anybody who negotiates by wearing me down. Not looking for a person who wants a demonstration before a conversation. Not looking to be interviewed by somebody who would not recognise a good answer if they got one.