I decide things all day and I would like somebody else to
Posted as decide_what_i_eat
- Looking for
- a constant domestic dynamic rather than an occasional dramatic one
- Experience
- Four years, mostly online, one meeting that went nowhere.
- Around
- the city centre, Glasgow
What I want is for somebody else to decide what I eat, when I go to bed, and whether I take the job I have been offered. Written down like that it sounds as though I am asking for a parent. I have thought about it for two years and I am fairly sure it is not that, and I am posting anyway.
Thirty one, submissive, city centre, four years in and nearly all of it online. I am capable. I run a team. I make decisions all day and I make them well, and by seven at night there is nothing left in me for choosing a dinner.
So the dynamic I want is domestic and constant rather than dramatic and occasional. Standing rules about ordinary things. Somebody who asks whether I did what I said I would and is visibly unimpressed when I did not. Very little of what most people here would call play, at least at the start.
I am aware this reads as boring. It is precisely the thing I want and I have stopped apologising for it.
Not looking for anybody who wants to organise a scene. Not looking for a person who finds the ordinary version disappointing. Not looking to be told what I really want, which happened twice last year and both times by men who had known me a fortnight. And not looking for anybody who needs a great deal of enthusiasm in writing, because I have spent all of mine by the time I get home and there is none left over for being charming on a screen.