Perfectly ordinary man, and none of this has ever felt exotic
Posted as none_of_this_is_exotic
- Looking for
- somebody for whom this is simply how they do relationships
- Experience
- Eighteen years, both sides, always inside a relationship.
- Around
- the east end, Glasgow
I am a completely ordinary man with a completely ordinary job, and none of this has ever felt exotic to me. It is a thing my partners and I have done since I was in my twenties, in much the same way we watched films and went to the shops.
Thirty nine, switch, east end, eighteen years in.
I raise it because a lot of the writing here treats the subject as either a confession or a performance, and I have never recognised myself in either. Nothing about it frightens me and nothing about it thrills me in the way a first paragraph is apparently supposed to suggest. It is part of how I do relationships and always has been.
What I want is somebody who feels much the same. One person, both directions, over a long time. I lead in the physical side and follow in most of the rest, which is unusual enough that I mention it early.
Not looking for anybody for whom this is an enormous deal, and there is no judgement in that, it is simply a different pace of conversation. Not looking for a person who wants to talk about it more than do it. Not looking for anything that requires me to be a character, because I am not one and it would show inside ten minutes.