Forty years of fixing things, and this is run the same way
Posted as maintenance_not_performance
- Looking for
- one submissive for something long, regular and entirely undramatic
- Experience
- Twenty six years, two arrangements, one of them eleven years.
- Around
- the east end, Glasgow
I spent forty years fixing things other people had broken, and the way I run a dynamic comes straight out of that. It is maintenance. Small, regular attention to something so that it does not fail. It is not a performance and I have never understood the appeal of treating it as one.
Fifty eight, dominant man, east end, retired from engineering last year, twenty six years in this.
In practice: I want to know how somebody actually is, weekly, and I want the truth about it. I set standards and I check them. I am patient to the point of being slow. Two long arrangements, one of eleven years, and both worked because nothing dramatic ever happened inside them.
I am not much of a writer and I would far rather talk. I have a car, I have a house to myself, and my time is entirely my own now, which is still a strange thing to be able to say out loud.
Not looking for anybody who wants an event. Not looking for a person who needs me to be somebody I am plainly not, which at my age would be embarrassing for everyone involved. Not looking to be anyone's first, because I do not think I would do it well and there are people who do it much better.