The last two agreed with everything and both were miserable
Posted as argue_with_me
- Looking for
- somebody who will tell me plainly when I have got it wrong
- Experience
- Nineteen years, three dynamics, two of them long.
- Around
- the south side, Glasgow
The last two submissives I had agreed with everything I said, and both of them were quietly miserable for months before it came out. I have decided the trait I actually need is somebody who will argue with me.
Forty seven, dominant woman, south side, nineteen years in. I do not mean defiance and I am not interested in being tested. I mean that when I get something wrong I want to be told at the time, in plain words, by the person it is happening to. If you cannot do that, everything I build is built on guesswork and it will fall over eventually, and it will be my fault for not asking.
What I want otherwise is conventional. One person, ongoing, structure through the week, real standards, and a dynamic that could survive either of us having a bad year.
I am direct, I am not remotely delicate, and I have never once been offended by somebody telling me the truth about myself.
Not looking for anybody who thinks obedience means silence. Not looking for a person who will apologise for having a preference. Not looking for somebody whose idea of submission is having no opinions, because I have had that twice and it is exhausting to lead.