If you are going to disappear, please do it now instead of later
Posted as no_more_vanishing
- Looking for
- one adult who is capable of saying no out loud
- Experience
- Twenty years topping, and lately a lot of waiting for replies.
- Around
- Montrose, Houston
Three times this year I have got as far as a first meeting with somebody and then had them evaporate. No argument, no awkward conversation, just silence from a person who had spent three weeks telling me how much they wanted this.
I am not writing that to be pitied. I am writing it because I have decided to be thoroughly unappealing up front and see who is left standing. Forty seven. Houston. I have been topping for twenty years and I know what I am doing. I am not soft and I am not cruel. I take responsibility for people seriously and I expect the same seriousness back, which mostly means telling me the truth when the truth is inconvenient.
Say no to me. Say you have changed your mind. Say you found me intimidating and would rather not. Any of those is fine and none will get an argument out of me. What I will not do again is chase a person who has already decided. What I want, once the bad tempered half of this is over, is a long dynamic with somebody honest to the point of being blunt about it.
If this has put you off, good, that was half the intention.