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Submissives the city centre, Liverpool

Twenty five, absolutely terrified, and posting anyway

Posted as terrified_and_typing

Looking for
one patient person and a conversation with no plan attached
Experience
None whatsoever. Two years of reading and worrying.
Around
the city centre, Liverpool

My hands are actually shaking, which is ridiculous, because nothing has happened and nothing is going to happen tonight. I have written and binned three versions of this and the binned ones were all much cleverer than this one.

Twenty five, city centre, sharing a flat with my best mate who does not know and will not be told. I have never done any of this with anybody. I have known since I was about nineteen. I have read a frankly embarrassing amount and none of it has made me any braver.

What I want first is to talk to someone. Not to meet, not yet, not for a while. Just to be able to say some of this to a person instead of to a search bar at two in the morning, and to find out whether I sound as strange out loud as I do in my own head.

I think what I am after underneath it is structure and being looked after by somebody who takes it seriously. But I would rather say I am not sure than pretend to a confidence I do not have.

Not looking for anybody who wants to meet this week. Not looking for photographs and I will not be sending any. Not looking for someone who finds a nervous twenty five year old appealing, because I would like to be talked to like an adult who is new, not like a project.

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