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Dominants Chamberí, Madrid

Fifty seven, home after thirty years away, and everything shrank

Posted as came_back_smaller

Looking for
a submissive who will not need me to be sociable about it
Experience
Twenty six years, most of it abroad, three long arrangements.
Around
Chamberí, Madrid

I left at twenty six and came back at fifty five, and the city I returned to is not the one in my head. Everybody I knew has a life I was not part of. My Spanish has an accent from three other countries in it. I am from here and I am a stranger, and I have decided to stop finding that sad and start finding it useful.

Fifty seven, Madrid, dominant, twenty six years of it in four different countries. Three long arrangements, the last of which ended when I came back, by mutual agreement, because she was not going to leave her country and I was not going to stay.

I lead in a way I would call administrative, which is not a word that sells anything. Structure, expectations, records, review. I have run households and I have run them well, and the thing I am best at is noticing when somebody is quietly failing at something and dealing with it before it becomes a crisis.

I do not go to things. I am not going to become part of the local scene. I have no interest in being known and I would want a submissive who feels the same, or at least who has a separate social life in this that does not require me to attend.

I can host, I live alone, I am free most of the time and I am very rarely in a hurry. If you have been in this a long time and are tired of starting over, we may understand each other quickly.

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