Fifty two, Madrid, and I lead differently than I did two years ago
Posted as different_hands_now
- Looking for
- someone who wants attention rather than athletics
- Experience
- Twenty four years, and the last two have changed the method.
- Around
- Chamberí, Madrid
For twenty two years the physical part of this was most of what I did, and I was good at it, and I enjoyed being good at it. Then my hands stopped being reliable. Some days they are fine. Some days I cannot hold anything for more than a few minutes and would not trust myself with rope near anybody.
Fifty two, Madrid, dominant. I spent about a year being fairly miserable about it and then I noticed something that in hindsight was obvious: almost nothing I actually valued in a dynamic required my hands. Instruction does not. Waiting does not. Being watched does not. Standards do not.
So what I do now is slower and mostly verbal, and two of the best scenes of my life have happened in the last eighteen months, from a chair.
I am telling you this because it is the whole shape of what I am offering and you should know before you write. If what you want is an evening of physical work done to you, I am not the person, and there are people here who are.
What I want is somebody who finds being paid absolute attention more interesting than being handled. Someone who can hold a position, follow a voice, take correction, and tell me honestly afterwards what worked. I am unhurried and quite formal. I live alone and can host. I will want several conversations before anything, partly caution and partly because I like the conversations.