BDSM personals in Madrid
Madrid runs on a clock that surprises everyone else: an evening here starts when other cities are going to bed, and the posts say so because it decides who can actually meet. The pool is large and the culture sociable, so a lot of this board starts from company and conversation rather than from a list. August empties the city and the board with it.
Posts come from the centre, Chamberí, Malasaña, the south of the city and the outer ring. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Dominants in Madrid
People looking to lead, and saying what that means to them.
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Madrid, dominant, and one week in four I disappear
Looking for: someone who does not take a cancellation as a verdict
Seventeen years leading, two long dynamics, one lasting nine.
I am on call one week in four and I cannot tell you in advance which evenings of that week will vanish. Some of them all do. Twice in the last year I have left in the middle of something and driven back across the city in twenty minutes, and both times the person I left handled it well, and both times I could see it cost them something.
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Fifty seven, home after thirty years away, and everything shrank
Looking for: a submissive who will not need me to be sociable about it
Twenty six years, most of it abroad, three long arrangements.
I left at twenty six and came back at fifty five, and the city I returned to is not the one in my head. Everybody I knew has a life I was not part of. My Spanish has an accent from three other countries in it. I am from here and I am a stranger, and I have decided to stop finding that sad and start finding it useful.
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Sixty one, Madrid, and my Sundays are not available to anyone
Looking for: a service dynamic that fits into a life that is already full
Twenty nine years, three arrangements, the last one eleven.
Every Sunday of my life there are between nine and fourteen people in my house eating lunch, and it takes until about six in the evening, and it is not negotiable. I mention it first because it is the thing that has ended two of these, and both times the person told me at the beginning that of course they understood.
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Fifty two, Madrid, and I lead differently than I did two years ago
Looking for: someone who wants attention rather than athletics
Twenty four years, and the last two have changed the method.
For twenty two years the physical part of this was most of what I did, and I was good at it, and I enjoyed being good at it. Then my hands stopped being reliable. Some days they are fine. Some days I cannot hold anything for more than a few minutes and would not trust myself with rope near anybody.
Submissives in Madrid
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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Madrid, submissive, and my building is full of strangers
Looking for: a dominant who can host, because I genuinely cannot
Five years, two dynamics, both ended over practicalities.
Four of the eight flats in my building are short lets now. Different people every week, wheeling cases up the stairs at two in the morning, and a stairwell that has stopped being anywhere I recognise. That has made my own home feel like a hotel corridor, and it has made bringing anyone here impossible in a way I cannot really explain to somebody who has not lived it.
Switches in Madrid
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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Nine years here, a mortgage, and still treated as a tourist
Looking for: someone who will not ask how long I am staying
Twelve years in total, nine of them here, both directions.
The question arrives in the second message, every time, in a slightly kind voice: and how long are you here for. Nine years. I have a mortgage, a dentist, an opinion about the water pressure in my building and a Spanish tax number older than some people on this board have been doing any of this.
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My working day starts at five so the sun does not get me
Looking for: someone whose hours are as strange as the climate makes mine
Nine years, both directions, one dynamic of three years.
I work outdoors, on sites, and from May to September I start at five in the morning and finish at one, because after that the temperature makes the work dangerous. For four months of the year I am asleep at nine in the evening, in a city where nothing social begins before eleven.
Couples in Madrid
Partners searching together, with both of them in the post.
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We have never done this before and we are both quite nervous
Looking for: another couple who also do not really know what they are doing
Together fourteen years. Absolutely no experience of any of this.
Neither of us has ever written anything like this and we have spent two evenings arguing about the wording, which is probably the most honest thing we can tell you about ourselves.
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Married twenty two years, Madrid, and we would like to know people
Looking for: another couple to talk to before anything else is discussed
Twenty two years together, this in it quietly for nine of them.
We are in our early fifties, we have been married twenty two years, and for nine of those there has been a dynamic between us that nobody in our lives knows about. It works. We are not writing here because anything is wrong.
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