The south of the city, and no, I am not coming to you every time
Posted as not_a_suburb
- Looking for
- somebody who lives within half an hour of me and intends to stay
- Experience
- Fifteen years leading, two long arrangements, one still ongoing socially.
- Around
- the south of the city, Madrid
Six of the last ten people who wrote to me suggested, in the first or second message, that I come into the centre, because that is where things happen. I live in the south of this city. I have lived here my whole life. There are more people in my half of Madrid than in most cities in this country. It is not a suburb of the four streets people mean by the centre.
Forty three, dominant, fifteen years. I run things quite formally: agreements written down, a defined structure, a review every three months where either of us can end it without a scene. Two long arrangements behind me, the second of which finished four years ago and whose subject still sends me a message on my birthday, which is the only reference anyone gets.
What I want is a submissive who lives on this side of the city, or near enough that a Tuesday is possible, and who is not treating my half of Madrid as a waiting room. I am not against coming in occasionally. I am against the assumption that the person who does not live in the middle is the one who should always be on the metro.
I lead through service and expectation. Very little impact. A great deal of attention to whether you did the thing you said you would do. I am free in the evenings from about nine and most of the weekend outside July and August, when I go to my family and am largely unavailable.
Not looking for a long correspondence with somebody who has no intention of ever getting on a metro themselves. If which side of the city we live on is going to be the whole story, let us find out in message two.