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Dominants the outer ring, Madrid

Dominant, and I want whole weekends rather than late evenings

Posted as two_hours_each_way

Looking for
a submissive who can give me two days instead of two hours
Experience
Thirteen years, two long dynamics, both built on weekends.
Around
the outer ring, Madrid

The circle I move in here is about sixty people and I have some kind of history with a third of them. That is not a complaint about this city, it is arithmetic, and it is why I am writing to strangers instead of asking the people I already know.

Thirty six, Madrid, dominant, thirteen years. Both of my long dynamics were built on whole weekends rather than on evenings, and I learned that I am unusually well suited to that. The daily part happens in writing. The physical part happens properly, on a Friday to Sunday, once or twice a month, with everything planned in advance and nothing wasted on deciding what to do when we get there.

People tell me this sounds cold. What I have found is the opposite. Two full days with somebody who has been under instruction all fortnight is a different animal from three hours squeezed between a working day that ends at eight and the last metro.

So: anywhere in this city, and I genuinely do not mind which side of it you are on, because we are not going to be doing this on a Tuesday anyway. Somebody who plans well, who is honest when a weekend is not going to happen, and who understands that the arrangement is not a compromise for either of us but the actual design.

I am careful about money in the sense that we would each pay our own way, always, without exception, and I would rather that were understood now than discussed later. Not looking for anybody who treats the weekend shape as a stage on the way to seeing each other every night of the week. It is not a stage. That is a feature.

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