Paris, dominant, and I will not suggest meeting for a fortnight
Posted as three_letters_first
- Looking for
- someone who can write properly before anything is arranged
- Experience
- Twenty years leading, three long dynamics, all begun in writing.
- Around
- the Marais, Paris
I do not propose a meeting in the first week. I do not propose one in the second either, usually, and I have been told by several people that this makes me difficult, and by two others that it was the reason they trusted me.
Forty four, Paris, dominant, twenty years. What I want at the start is correspondence: four or five real exchanges in which we each say what we actually want and, more usefully, what we have got wrong before. Not a questionnaire. Not a list of activities copied from somewhere. An account of yourself in your own words, at whatever length you write comfortably.
The reason is not romance. It is that in twenty years, every dynamic I have had that lasted began this way, and every one that began with an arrangement to meet on Thursday ended inside two months. I am not claiming this is a law of nature. It is my own evidence and it is all I have.
What I am looking for is a long dynamic with one person: structure that develops over years rather than being agreed in a fortnight, service, protocol that has a purpose, and a submissive with a full and separate life. Very little impact. Nothing photographed, ever.
I am in the east of the city, I live alone, my hours are regular and my Augusts are empty because everyone I know leaves and I do not. If you write to me with two lines, I will answer with two lines, and then neither of us will have learned anything.