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Submissives the 10th, Paris

I play in an orchestra, so my week is exactly backwards

Posted as mondays_are_mine

Looking for
a dominant whose free day is also the wrong one
Experience
Fourteen years, three dynamics, two ended over the calendar.
Around
the 10th, Paris

Every evening that other people are free, I am working, and I have been for twenty six years. Rehearsals in the day, performances at night, and tours that take me away for a fortnight at a time with no notice worth speaking of. My free day is Monday. It has always been Monday.

Fifty one, Paris, submissive, fourteen years. Two of my three dynamics ended over exactly this, not because anybody was unreasonable but because a person with a normal job and a person with mine have almost no overlapping hours and love does not create time.

So I am looking for somebody whose week is also wrong. People who work weekends. Shift workers. The retired. The self employed. Anyone for whom a Monday afternoon is not an absurd suggestion.

What I want is structure that lives in the days between: rules, obligations, a report, someone who knows what I should have practised and asks. I am used to being told I am not good enough at something by a person whose judgement I respect, and I have never found that painful. It is most of what my working life is made of, and it is exactly what I want in the other part of it.

Very little interest in pain. Enormous interest in exacting standards. I live alone, I can host, and I am quiet in a way that surprises people who assume musicians are extroverts. If Monday means nothing to you, we may be the two people on this board who can actually see each other.

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