I came to Paris for the work and lost the only room I ever had
Posted as twenty_six_square_metres
- Looking for
- a submissive who has solved the problem of where, or will help me solve it
- Experience
- Eleven years leading, two dynamics, both before I arrived here.
- Around
- the 10th, Paris
I moved here three years ago for reasons that had nothing to do with any of this: a job, and the growing conviction that I was going to spend my thirties in a town where nothing was going to happen to me. I have not regretted it once, and I have also had to accept that I now live in twenty six square metres with a neighbour I can hear cough through the wall.
Thirty two, Paris, dominant, eleven years, and both of my real dynamics happened before I arrived and ended when I did.
What is genuinely different here is not the number of people, there are more of them than I know what to do with. It is that none of it can happen anywhere. Where I came from I had a room with a door. Here the question of where two people can actually be is the first thing to solve, and almost nobody says so out loud. It took me two years to understand that and I am still not good at it.
So I am on a board, which is what people do when the informal route is closed to them. What I want is a long dynamic. I lead in a fairly domestic register: rules, service, correction that is verbal, a review when things change. I am not interested in an evening, I am interested in a year. I swim most mornings, I work irregular hours, and I live alone, which is the one advantage of a flat this size.
I would rather hear from somebody who is from here than from another recent arrival, purely because I have discovered how much I do not know about this city and I would like to stop being the newest person in every room.