divorce finalised in november. 24 years of a marriage where this side of me stayed in a box, and now i’m 47, sitting here with the box open, feeling ridiculous.
everything about kink dating online looks built for people in their 20s and 30s. the apps, the photos, the way people write. i drafted a profile and deleted it twice because all i could hear was who do you think you are. it’s not even about looks exactly. it’s the feeling that everyone my age got their experience decades ago and i’d be showing up to the party as the lights come on.
so be honest with me. are there actually people starting this in their late 40s, or is the kind thing to accept that i had my window? i’d rather a true answer than a gentle one. and if you did start late, what were the first months actually like? the good and the humiliating both, please.
