He wrote this post and then I added a paragraph underneath
Posted as his_version_then_mine
- Looking for
- a dominant woman who will negotiate with both of us equally
- Experience
- Twelve years together, two previous arrangements, both good.
- Around
- Noord, Amsterdam
He wrote this post. I read it afterwards and I am leaving his version in, with mine underneath, because his is a very good demonstration of the problem.
His: we are a couple in our forties in Noord, together twelve years, looking for a dominant woman for occasional evenings with both of us. We are easy going, open to most things and happy to be guided.
Mine: we are not easy going and we are not open to most things. He is submissive, I am not, and I have no intention of being guided by anybody. What I want is to watch somebody who knows what she is doing take charge of him, and to be involved on my own terms, which are specific and which I will state clearly once we are actually talking. He knows all of this. He writes it vaguely because he worries that being precise puts people off.
So: he is forty three and enthusiastic. I am forty one and difficult. We have done this twice, both times well, both times with people we spent a long while talking to first.
Not looking for anybody who will negotiate only with him, which happened once and which I ended. Not looking for a person who wants a couple that will agree to anything, since one half of us would and the other half will not. Not looking to be hurried by anyone, him included.