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Couples the east, Amsterdam

Weekday daytimes only, which rules out almost everybody

Posted as empty_until_four

Looking for
a dominant who is free in the middle of a working day
Experience
Six years each, one shared arrangement that lasted a year.
Around
the east, Amsterdam

Our flat is empty between nine in the morning and four in the afternoon and that is when this can happen. Not evenings. Not weekends. Weekday daytimes, which we appreciate rules out very nearly everybody with a job.

Thirty five and thirty seven, together ten years, in the east, with a child at home and no family in this country to help with any of it. One of us works shifts and the other works from home, and between them we get a couple of overlapping free mornings most weeks. That is what we have. We are not going to find more of it by wishing.

What we want is one person for something regular and fairly quiet over a long period. Both of us are in it, both of us are submissive, and we are looking for a dominant of any gender who is free in the middle of a weekday and does not consider that a strange way to live.

We should say plainly that we are tired, in the way people in our position are, and that we are not looking for anything requiring a great deal of stamina or a great deal of messaging.

Not looking for anybody who will suggest an evening after reading this. Not looking for a person who expects us to arrange childcare, because we cannot. Not looking for anything that comes anywhere near our home life, which stays entirely separate.

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