What we actually want is somebody at the table on a Tuesday
Posted as dinner_three_nights
- Looking for
- a submissive with her own home who wants a place in ours
- Experience
- Sixteen years together, eleven with a structure, one arrangement of three years.
- Around
- the west, Amsterdam
We would like somebody to have dinner with us three or four evenings a week. That is the actual centre of it, and everything people normally put in a post like this is secondary to the fact that we want a person around on ordinary weekday evenings.
Forty four and forty seven, together sixteen years, in the west. She leads, he does not, and we have run our home that way for eleven years.
What we offer is a defined domestic role. Standing duties, a place at the table, expectations that are identical on a Tuesday and on a Saturday. What we cannot offer, and this matters, is a room. There is no space and there never will be, so whoever this is keeps her own home and her own life, and we would insist on that even if we had a spare room, which we do not.
We did this once before, for three years. It ended when she met somebody and moved to Utrecht, and we were at the wedding.
Not looking for anybody who wants intensity, because our life is genuinely domestic and a fair amount of it is washing up. Not looking for a person under thirty, since last time the gap made things lopsided in ways nobody intended. Not looking for someone who wants only one of us, which has been the opening line of about half the replies we get.