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Switches the west, Amsterdam

Six people, one bathroom, and a neighbour who talks all day

Posted as six_of_us

Looking for
one person, either direction, for something that is not casual
Experience
Two years, led twice, followed rather more.
Around
the west, Amsterdam

There are six of us in this flat and one bathroom, and the person in the room next to mine works from home with a headset on and talks without pause from nine until six. That is my living situation and it rules out very nearly everything.

Twenty four, switch, in the west, two years in, studying and working part time. So I cannot host, ever, and I need you not to be quietly hoping that will change. What I can do is travel anywhere in the city at almost any hour, and I have far more free afternoons than anybody with a proper job.

I want one person, ongoing, and I am genuinely easy about direction. I have led twice and followed rather more and both felt like the same thing seen from different angles. What I care about is that it is not casual. I have tried casual and it turns out I do not like it, which was a useful thing to learn and expensive in time.

I read a great deal and I ask too many questions and I am told both are exhausting.

Not looking for anybody older who wants teaching to be the main event, since I have had two of those conversations and both were really about something else. Not looking for a person who finds my age charming. Not looking for anything that requires money I do not have, which is all of it, so we will be walking.

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