Berlin, thirty seven, private life stays private, and no photographs
Posted as steady_rain
- Looking for
- someone who understands discretion without treating it as an insult
- Experience
- Twelve years, quiet the whole time.
- Around
- Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
My face is not going anywhere. Not in a message, not on a profile, not in a video call at the start. I have worked in media for twelve years and I have watched what one careless image does to somebody, so this is a settled position rather than an opening offer.
Thirty seven, Berlin, I lead, twelve years in this and quiet for all of them. I have never been to a public event and probably will not. Practically it means I am slow. I will talk for a while. I will suggest meeting somewhere ordinary and busy, in daylight, and I will be perfectly relaxed once we are actually in the same room. It is the digital trail I mind, not the person.
What I want is one long dynamic with somebody who wants to be led over years rather than for an evening, and who has enough of their own life that the discretion costs them nothing.
I like rope, spoken control, and rules that operate through a working week. I do not like anything that would leave a mark somewhere visible, and I do not like being recorded in any form, which I say twice because people ask anyway.
If you need photographs to be interested, we will not work and there is no hard feeling. If you find all this cautious, you are right. It has cost me a few opportunities and it has never once cost me a job.