BDSM personals in Berlin
Berlin treats negotiation as ordinary admin rather than an awkward conversation. Limits get stated plainly, posts are often shorter because the writer assumes the reader already knows the vocabulary, and nobody here is embarrassed. The city is also transient in a way that shows up in the ads: a good part of the board arrived in the last five years and says so.
Posts come from Kreuzberg, Neukölln, Prenzlauer Berg, Friedrichshain and the west of the city. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Dominants in Berlin
People looking to lead, and saying what that means to them.
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Berlin, forty nine, dominant, and not available around the clock
Looking for: a submissive who wants something serious and part time
Twenty one years, three collared dynamics, all ended properly.
I do not do full time. I have done it twice and both times it slowly ate a real life I was quite fond of. Anyone whose first question is whether I want a live in slave can save us both the exchange.
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Berlin, forty two, dominant, and the family business owns autumn
Looking for: someone who understands a life with one impossible season in it
Sixteen years, two long dynamics, one of them still nearby.
From the middle of September until the end of October I effectively do not exist. That is our season, it is the family business, and it is not a thing I can move. Everybody who has been with me has had to make peace with it, and one of them could not.
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Fifty seven, Berlin, dominant, no interest in a performance
Looking for: someone real, nearby, and not looking for a character from a film
Twenty six years, two long dynamics, one very short one.
I have never owned a piece of leather in my life and I am not going to start now. Whatever is in your head from films, it is not me. I am a fifty seven year old man who maintains machinery and who has led two women for a long time each.
Submissives in Berlin
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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Service only, no pain, Berlin, and I do mean none
Looking for: someone who wants work done well rather than someone hurt
Eight years, all of it in service arrangements.
No pain. Not light pain, not a bit of pain, not just to see. This is the sentence I repeat most often and the reason it is in the headline and now here as well.
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Sixty three, Berlin, submissive, and I still write letters
Looking for: a dominant woman who values correspondence as much as contact
Twenty five years, one arrangement that ran for nineteen.
I served one woman for nineteen years. It ended five years ago when she moved abroad, amicably and with a very long letter, and I did not look for anybody afterwards because I did not want to. That has changed this year.
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American in Berlin, submissive, and my German is genuinely tragic
Looking for: someone whose English is better than my German, which is a low bar
Three years, all of it back home in Chicago.
I moved here for work eleven months ago and I have learned two things. One, my German is tragic. Two, the vocabulary I most need is in none of the apps.
Switches in Berlin
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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Twenty nine, Berlin, switch, three shifts and a bad car
Looking for: someone flexible about days because my week rotates
Four years, started bottoming, top about half the time now.
My shifts rotate on a three week cycle, so asking whether I am free on Saturday is a coin flip. I can tell you my free days two months ahead. I just cannot promise they will be weekends.
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The far edge of the city, fifty three, switch, wind and not much else
Looking for: someone who understands that out here everything is a project
Twenty years, both roles, long gaps between people.
Out at my end of the city the wind decides things. It is flat, it is empty, and there is nothing between here and the fields to slow it down. The middle of town is an hour and two changes, which makes going there a plan rather than an outing. Everything in my life takes an extra hour and I have stopped minding.
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I work nights on a reception desk, Berlin, switch, awake at four
Looking for: someone whose life also happens at the wrong end of the clock
Three years, mostly topping, curious about the other side.
There is a specific loneliness to being wide awake at four in the morning while everybody on this board is asleep. I am not complaining. I am explaining why my replies arrive at odd hours.
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Berlin, thirty eight, switch, careful and slow by choice
Looking for: somebody who takes months rather than weeks to build something
Ten years, three connections, all of them slow to start.
Everything good that has happened to me in this took at least three months to begin, and everything that started fast ended badly. I have enough of a sample now to treat it as a rule.
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