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Submissives the Black Country, Birmingham

Plain English please, because I have no idea what half of you mean

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Looking for
somebody who can say what they want without a glossary
Experience
None. Two months of reading and a growing suspicion I started too late.
Around
the Black Country, Birmingham

I have read maybe thirty of these now and I would say a third of them are in a language I do not speak. Initials. Capital letters in the middle of words. Phrases everybody else seems to have agreed on at a meeting I was not invited to. I have looked several up and half the time the explanation used four more words I then had to look up as well.

Forty eight, Black Country, I fit kitchens for a living, and two months ago I finally admitted to myself what I have known since I was about twenty.

So here is mine in plain words. I would like a woman who wants to be in charge. I want to be told what to do and I want it to matter to her whether I have done it properly. I would like that to be a real arrangement between two adults rather than an evening we put in the diary. That is the lot.

I am not embarrassed about not knowing things. I am too old to be embarrassed about that. I am also not going to pretend I have done any of this before, because I have not, and I have seen enough people on here get caught out doing exactly that.

If you write to me, write the way you would talk. I am not being difficult and I am not judging how anybody else writes. I am simply not going to reply to something I cannot follow, and it seemed fairer to say so than to leave anybody wondering.

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