My marriage had this in it and nobody knew. Not doing that again
Posted as the_hidden_marriage
- Looking for
- a submissive who can be known to my friends if not to my employer
- Experience
- Twenty three years, one marriage with it in, hidden throughout.
- Around
- uptown, Dallas
We were married for nineteen years and this was the backbone of it and not one person in our lives ever knew. Not her sister, not my oldest friend, nobody. When it ended I found that I could not talk about the largest part of my adult life to anyone at all, and that was worse than the divorce.
Fifty, uptown, dominant, twenty three years in. I have made a decision since and I am putting it in the post because it will not suit everybody. I have told four close friends. They were fine, in the mild and slightly awkward way people are fine about things.
So I am no longer looking for total secrecy in my private life, and that is a change from most of this board. What I do still need is complete separation from my working life, because that is a different thing and the consequences there are real and immediate.
What I want is one submissive, a long arrangement, structure, service, and someone who is a person in my life rather than a compartment in it. Dinners with friends who know. Being able to say something true when somebody asks how my year is going.
If you need this to be invisible, I understand completely and I was you until eighteen months ago. We are simply not going to fit. Not looking for anyone in the early stages of working out what they want. Not looking to be somebody's route out of a marriage, which I have been asked twice and will not do.