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Dominants the east side, Dallas

I can be pulled away at any hour, and that has ended two dynamics

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Looking for
a submissive with a genuinely high tolerance for interruption
Experience
Nine years, two dynamics, both ended over the same thing.
Around
the east side, Dallas

When something goes down at work I am on it within ten minutes regardless of what I was doing, what day it is, or how carefully the evening was arranged. That happens perhaps twice a month and it is entirely unpredictable and there is no version of my career where it stops.

Thirty six, east side, dominant, nine years. Two dynamics, both of which ended over exactly this, and in both cases the person was completely reasonable about the first six interruptions and then stopped being reasonable, which is not a criticism, it is just what happens.

I have thought hard about how to make this survivable and here is what I have. I do not build the arrangement around presence. The structure is in the week rather than in the evening: rules that run whether I am there or not, tasks, reports, standards that do not need me in the room to hold. Then the time together is a bonus rather than the load bearing part.

What I want is a submissive who is genuinely self sufficient and who has enough going on that a cancelled Thursday is an inconvenience rather than a wound. I am precise, I am not soft, and I am extremely good at picking a thread back up two days later.

Not looking for anyone who needs a fixed weekly slot. Not looking to be told I should set better boundaries at work, which is true and unhelpful. Not looking for someone who will start counting.

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