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Dominants Plano side, Dallas

Two hundred people report up to me and none of them knows anything

Posted as the_lid

Looking for
a submissive who understands what a closed door costs and does not resent it
Experience
Sixteen years, three dynamics, all of them behind the same door.
Around
Plano side, Dallas

There is a lid on this city and I am part of the reason it stays on. Two hundred people report up through me. I sit on a committee that decides other people's careers. Everything about how I do this is downstream of that arithmetic.

Forty seven, up on the north side, dominant, sixteen years. Three dynamics, the longest six years, every one of them entirely private and every one of them perfectly happy that way. What I am good at is running something over a long period without drama. I plan, I follow through, I do not vanish, and I take the responsibility side of it more seriously than the enjoyable side. What I am not good at is spontaneity, and I have stopped pretending I will improve.

What I want is a submissive who wants a structured, ongoing, quiet arrangement. Regular evenings, standing rules between them, service, protocol, and correction that is conversational rather than physical. Light impact is on the table. It is not the centre.

The discretion is not about shame. I am not ashamed of any of this and I would say so in a room. It is about the fact that a rumour in my building would not have to be true to be expensive, and I am eleven years from being able to stop caring about that.

Not looking for anybody who wants to be taken places. Not looking for someone who reads privacy as coldness. Not looking for a person who needs daily proof that they matter, because my day does not have room in it and I would rather say so now.

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