Switch, and I am not writing the defence of it again
Posted as both_ways_no_lecture
- Looking for
- one person who can genuinely do both, decided per evening
- Experience
- Six years, both sides, two dynamics of under a year.
- Around
- the city centre, Glasgow
I go both ways and I am not going to write three paragraphs defending it. Everybody on this board has read that post and it is tedious.
Thirty, switch, city centre, six years in. About sixty forty in favour of leading, and the forty matters to me as much as the sixty does.
What I want is one person who can genuinely do both, decided evening by evening rather than negotiated from scratch every time. If you can only manage one direction, that is completely fine and it is not me. I would much rather you said so in the first message than have me find out in month four that you had been being polite about it, which has happened twice and both times I could tell long before either of us admitted it.
I work in a shop, my hours move about a bit, and I can host on the weeks my flatmate is away, which is roughly one in three.
Not looking for anybody who wants to try the other side once as a novelty. Not looking for a person who thinks a switch is somebody who has not decided yet. Not looking to be the answer to somebody else's curiosity, which is a thing I have been and did not enjoy.