I will always do the travelling and I would like it noticed
Posted as i_do_the_travelling
- Looking for
- one person, ongoing, who turns up when they said they would
- Experience
- Five years, two dynamics, one ended by somebody else's diary.
- Around
- out towards Lanarkshire, Glasgow
I live out towards Lanarkshire and I will do the travelling. Every time. I am not going to ask you to come out here and I am not going to make the distance your problem. What I would like is for that to be noticed rather than assumed.
Thirty three, submissive, five years in, working shifts in a warehouse on a pattern I get four weeks in advance.
Here is what happens instead. I say where I am, the other person says that is a fair distance, and then they spend the whole thing quietly treating my hour on the road as a favour I am glad to be permitted. It is not a favour. It is a decision I have made, and I would like the same effort back in whatever form is available to you, which mostly means turning up when you said you would.
What I want is one person, ongoing, with structure through the week and something that does not depend on us being in the same room.
Not looking for anybody who will suggest I move. Not looking for a person who cancels at short notice, because a cancellation costs me two hours and a bus fare. Not looking to be the evening somebody slots in when their week has a gap in it.