One of us tells her friends everything and one of us tells nobody
Posted as one_of_us_is_out
- Looking for
- one person for something occasional on the stricter of our two sets of terms
- Experience
- Seven years together, four with this, one previous arrangement.
- Around
- the west end, Glasgow
One of us tells her friends everything and one of us has never told anybody anything. We have been arguing about it for four years and we are not going to resolve it, so we are posting with it stated rather than hidden.
Thirty three and thirty six, together seven years, west end, both women. She is the one who talks and would happily discuss all of this over a table with anybody. I am the one who would rather die, and I work in a job where being talked about is a real cost rather than an imagined one.
What we have arrived at is that everything is her business until it involves me, and then it is mine. It works, mostly. It means she has friends who know and I have none, and we both have opinions about that.
We are looking for one person for something occasional, and the terms are effectively set by me since I am the more restricted of us. No photographs, nothing near where either of us works, nothing said to anybody.
Not looking for anybody who will treat the restrictions as negotiable once we know each other better. Not looking to be told I would feel better if I were more open, which she has been saying for four years and which may even be true. Not looking for a person who talks, and by that I mean the ordinary kind of talking that everybody does about their weekend, because that is how it happens here rather than through anybody being malicious.