I only switch with somebody I already know well
Posted as only_inside_a_relationship
- Looking for
- one person over years, where the direction changes when it makes sense
- Experience
- Thirteen years, one six year relationship where it truly worked.
- Around
- the south side, Glasgow
I only switch inside a relationship. With a stranger I am one thing, and it is a poor version of that thing, and I have stopped trying to make the other arrangement work.
Forty, switch, south side, thirteen years in. What I mean is this. Going the other way requires me to know somebody well enough to read what is happening on their face, and that is not available in month one. Every time I have tried it early it has been technically fine and completely hollow.
Which makes me a slow prospect. For the first several months I will be following, and if what you want is somebody who can lead you next week then I am not it and I would rather say so now than be a disappointment in the spring.
What I want is one person, over years, where the direction changes because it makes sense rather than because it was scheduled. I had that once, for six years, and everything since has been a poor imitation of it.
Not looking for a scene partner. Not looking for anybody who wants both directions immediately, because they cannot have them from me. Not looking to be told this means I am not really a switch, which is a conversation I have had a dozen times and have stopped taking part in.