Asexual, submissive, and everything else about this suits me perfectly
Posted as no_that_part
- Looking for
- a service arrangement with no sexual element at any stage
- Experience
- Six years, one long dynamic, entirely non sexual and entirely happy.
- Around
- Eimsbüttel, Hamburg
I am asexual. Not low libido, not traumatised, not waiting for the right person. It is simply not something I want, and the six years I have spent in this world have been better than the years before them because everything else here fits me exactly.
Thirty one, Eimsbüttel, submissive, I work in a warehouse office. One dynamic of four years, entirely non sexual, which ended when she took a post abroad she could not turn down. We still speak. It was the best relationship of my life.
What I want is service and structure. Tasks, standards, an evening a week, and somebody who wants the work done properly rather than performed. I like being useful in a way that can be measured. I like being told when something is not good enough.
I am aware that ruling out the sexual part rules out most of a board. I would rather lose most of a board than spend three months with a person who has privately decided I will change my mind. Two people have tried it. One of them was patient about it for four months, which was worse than the one who was not.
Affection is fine. Being close is fine. Kneeling is fine. It is one specific category and it is off, permanently. Not looking for anyone who wants to understand why. Not looking for a dominant who describes this as a challenge. Not looking to be told I have not met the right person yet, because I have, and it made no difference at all.