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Submissives Altona, Hamburg

I enforce other people's deadlines all week and never my own

Posted as red_pencil_h

Looking for
a dominant who will set me deadlines that have nothing to do with work
Experience
Five years, two dynamics, both of which drifted rather than ended.
Around
Altona, Hamburg

My job is making other people finish things. I chase, I remind, I move dates, and I am extremely effective at it. My own projects have sat untouched for three years, which anybody who has met a person like me will find entirely predictable.

Thirty three, Altona, submissive, five years. I work in publishing, which in this city means being one of several thousand people who all know each other slightly, and that is a large part of why I am careful here.

What I want is a dominant who will take an interest in the parts of my life I neglect. Set the deadline. Ask for the work. Be genuinely unimpressed when it is not there. I do not want encouragement, I want expectation, and I am aware this makes me sound like a difficult client rather than a person.

Alongside that, ordinary things. Rules about the house. Being told how to spend a Sunday. Correction that is a conversation I do not enjoy having, which works on me better than anything physical ever has.

Both of my dynamics drifted. Nobody ended them. They simply got less frequent until they were not happening, and I let it, because I am far better at chasing other people than myself. If you are the sort of person who notices a pattern going slack and says something in week two rather than month six, we would probably get on. Not looking for anything at a weekend event. Not looking for a dominant in the same trade, for reasons I hope are obvious.

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