One week on the water, one week ashore, and that is the deal
Posted as one_week_on
- Looking for
- a dominant who can build something around a fortnightly rhythm
- Experience
- Six years, two dynamics, both worn down by the rota.
- Around
- the harbour side, Hamburg
Seven days on, seven days off. During the on week I am out of reach for hours at a time and asleep at odd hours. When I am off I am free in a way that almost nobody with a normal job ever is, including all day on a Wednesday.
Thirty four, submissive, I work on the water and have done since I was twenty. Two dynamics have ended because of the rota. Neither person was unkind about it. Both of them simply wanted a Friday, every Friday, and I cannot give anyone a Friday, every Friday, and there is no version of me that can.
What I have learned is that the rota is not actually the problem. The problem is treating the week I am away as dead time. The best fortnight I ever had with somebody involved daily tasks I could do at sea, a report she expected whether or not I felt like writing it, and a shore week that was properly planned rather than improvised on the second day of it.
So that is what I am asking for. Structure that runs through both halves. Someone who reads a calendar without sighing at it, and who is not going to interpret silence between eleven at night and six in the morning as anything at all.
I am not looking for somebody who wants to be told about ships. It is a job. I am not looking for anything that needs me every week. And I am not looking to move inland, which I mention only because the last person asked twice.