Trans, twenty six, and I would rather this came up in paragraph two
Posted as the_third_conversation
- Looking for
- somebody for whom this is information rather than a topic
- Experience
- Two years, both sides, mostly conversations that went nowhere.
- Around
- Altona, Hamburg
I am trans. It is in the second paragraph rather than the fifth because burying it means it arrives later as a revelation, and I have done that twice, and both times an ordinary conversation turned into an event I had to manage.
Twenty six, switch, Altona, two years in, which is not much. Most of what I have is conversations that were promising and then became about me in a way I did not want. Three people asked medical questions in the first exchange. One of them apologised properly when I said so and we are friends now, which I mention because it can go well.
What I want is a long dynamic in which this is one fact among many. I switch, I lean toward following, and the thing I actually want is structure. Rules, an evening that does not move, being answerable to somebody who is paying attention.
I am careful about photographs and I will not be sending any, which is about safety and not modesty. I work in a laboratory, I have regular hours, and I live alone in a flat roughly the size of a cupboard.
Not looking for anyone whose interest in me is the interesting part. Not looking to be somebody's education. Not looking for a person who will be terribly careful with me, because careful is not the same as respectful and I would much rather have the second.