Two years of almost, and I have started to think it is me
Posted as two_years_of_almost
- Looking for
- somebody who will actually get as far as a second meeting
- Experience
- Two years on boards like this, one meeting, no dynamic yet.
- Around
- the city centre, Liverpool
Two years, three long conversations that went beautifully, one actual meeting, and nothing after it. I am genuinely not writing this to have a go at anybody. I am writing it because at some point the common factor in four disappearances is me, and I would rather say that out loud than pretend I have not noticed.
Thirty one, city centre, submissive. My honest guess at what goes wrong is that I am much better in writing than I am in a room. I overprepare, I turn up having decided what sort of person I am going to be, and I think it comes across as stiff.
So I am going to try being ordinary instead. I work in insurance. I have a cat and a lot of houseplants. I want a dominant who will give me rules and check that I have kept them, and I would like it to be someone I end up genuinely fond of rather than an arrangement.
What I would ask is that the first meeting is short and low key and that we both agree in advance to say yes or no afterwards rather than fading.
Not looking for anything intense straight away. Not looking to be somebody's fifth message that never arrives. Not looking for reassurance, exactly, though I would not turn it down.