Twenty years in, and offering to answer the daft questions
Posted as we_answer_questions
- Looking for
- newer people who want somebody sensible to ask, and nothing else
- Experience
- Together twenty four years, in this for twenty, two arrangements behind us.
- Around
- Wirral, Liverpool
We are not looking for anybody. That is genuinely the point of this post, and we have written it because two separate people this year have asked us questions they were clearly embarrassed to be asking, and the answers took twenty minutes and seemed to matter a lot.
Forty nine and forty seven, Wirral, together twenty four years, twenty of them with this in our marriage.
So: if you are new, or coming back after a long time away, or simply have nobody to ask, we will answer. How do you negotiate. What does a first meeting sensibly look like. How do you tell whether somebody is safe. What do you do when you have got something wrong. Nothing is too daft and we have almost certainly done the daft version ourselves.
A coffee somewhere public, both of us there, no expectation of anything at all before, during or afterwards. If you would rather it were just one of us for whatever reason, say so and that is fine.
Not looking for a third, a friend, or anything that develops. Not looking to be anybody's only source of information, and we will point you elsewhere as well. Not looking to tell you what you ought to want, which is the thing we both hated most when we were new.