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Submissives south east, London

Twelve years in and getting increasingly rude about this board

Posted as cold_porridge

Looking for
anybody who reads a post before answering it
Experience
Twelve years. Three dynamics, one excellent, two educational.
Around
south east, London

Since the start of the year I have had forty one messages. Twenty six were one line. Nine were a photograph I did not ask for. Four asked me a question that is answered in the second paragraph of my last post. Two were from men who wanted me to know they do not normally do this. That leaves nothing, which is why I am writing another one.

Thirty five, south east, twelve years, and I know exactly what I am after: an ongoing dynamic with one dominant person, weekly, with rules that operate when we are not together. I have had that once. It was excellent. It ended because he was relocated, not because either of us got bored, which I think is worth mentioning on a board full of people who imply that everything burns out. I am not difficult. I am specific, and I have noticed those get treated as the same thing when a woman says them.

Things that will not work: telling me my expectations are high. They are average. Opening with an instruction to prove I am serious. Assuming that because I know what I want I must be a switch, a domme in denial, or lying.

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