Sub seeking a mentor rather than a partner, and meaning it
Posted as handwriting_practice
- Looking for
- instruction and structure without a relationship attached
- Experience
- Two years of study, one year of very careful practice.
- Around
- the inner south east, London
I am looking for a teacher, not a boyfriend, and I have found that saying so plainly halves the replies and improves the ones that remain.
Twenty eight, south east, and I came to this through the formal end of it: protocol, service, the older written material, the parts that most people find fussy. I like ritual. I like knowing what the correct thing to do is and doing it exactly. That is what I want to get better at, and the getting better is the point rather than a route to something else.
What I am asking for is a structured apprenticeship of a kind: regular sessions, honest correction, standards I have to reach, and somebody willing to tell me when my form is sloppy rather than being encouraging. I have read enough to be dangerous and I know that reading is not the same as being taught.
I understand that mentor is a word people use to mean something else, and I want to be clear that I do not intend anything one sided in that direction. I would expect this to be non sexual, and I would expect to be useful in return, because a person who takes teaching seriously deserves something for the time. Nothing about this involves payment and I would refuse an arrangement that did.
On practicalities: I can manage one evening a week and I would want it to be the same evening each week, because the regularity is half of what makes it work. I keep my word about times. I write formally, I keep notes, and I will ask you questions that are probably tedious. If that sounds like hard work, it is, and it is the only reason I am here.