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Submissives the far east of the city, London

Submissive man, far east, wanting a dynamic and not a session

Posted as long_lease

Looking for
a woman who wants this to be part of ordinary life
Experience
Six years. One dynamic of four, which I ended.
Around
the far east of the city, London

The difference between a dynamic and a session is the whole of what I am looking for, and if that distinction means nothing to you then this post is not for you.

Thirty three, out at the far east end, I fit kitchens for a living so I am up at half five and useless after ten at night. Six years in. One arrangement that ran four years, which I ended myself when it became clear she wanted an evening a month and I wanted a life. What I want is the boring version. Being expected to report. Standards about how I keep my flat. Being told no about things that have nothing to do with any of this. It works for me because it carries over into the rest of the week, and an evening that starts and stops does almost nothing for me.

I am not a talker. I have been told my messages are short to the point of rudeness and I am trying to fix it, but you should know that a long correspondence is not how I am going to show interest. Turning up is how I show interest. I do not want anything to do with the social side of this. No groups, no events, no meeting anyone's friends for a while.

I am a big bloke and people expect something different from me because of it, which has got tiresome. If you are looking for someone small and delicate I am not going to be a surprise you enjoy.

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